In my last post, I was talking about motive in every relation, another thing I would like to put in front of you, Its not really bad to have the motive in keeping the relation, but don’t be unscrupulous that you forget all the help you got, all the favors you accepted from your friend, never forget those. I am not saying I was 100% right and she was 100% wrong, but the favors were not balanced at all. I was loyal towards my friend and friendship but the way I was treated was not ethical, anyway not to give too much of importance and bad name to someone but I am not disclosing the name of the person so its fine to take it as an example.
I would like to make a point here, Keep the relation balanced, do not mix the relation with the business because it is difficult to draw the line between friendship and business. Another thing is, we start expecting so many things, just avoid that, may be I had also made this mistake. But i would say here that at least i was not unscrupulous and was not greedy to take someone’s share, but some people are.
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I had listened this many times, love is immortal, love never dies, relations are precious etc…..My philosophy differs from this, according to me relations never dies it just transforms into another form. Like law of energy, you must have heard this before, “Energy can not be created nor destroyed, it can be transformed from one form to another”.
Relation are similar, they never dies, today you are having friendly relation with someone, tomorrow you may be enemies. This world is very selfish, I do not believe this fact that there is such thing exist called “Friendship”, always there is a motive involved in each and every relation, if there is no motive involved from your side, then hats off to you and your thinking, and one should give me the same credit. But most of the times both the parties involved in relation are doing some kind of adjustments or compromise or i will say serving each others.
Most of the times when compromising factors are acceptable to both the parties involved in relation, then relations stays intact or else it breaks or turns sour.
Let me prove this to you with my personal experience. I had a friend, we had a nice relation, we got into this friendship due one of the stupid multilevel marketing business. If you know the terminology, she was my up line, everything was going well and I was trying hard and struggling to achieve the designation in that stupid business but it was not working very well. Both of us knew that this thing is not working but being an up line, her bosses trained her to not to share anything with the down line, even though i was her best friend (according to me) she was hiding all these things from me and pushing me to get the clients and business, sending me for prospecting and all. One day she must have realized that there is a good opportunity outside this MLM business and decided to work outside this MLM to make money. One fine day she approached me and said we will do this business and open the brokerage firm in partnership, I agreed. But i didn’t know that, something was cooking in the background. When I didn’t agreed on the percentage she was offering me and that too after I got that better deal for us considering she is going to do this business with me in partnership. When I refused to do this business with her on offered percentage, since then I could feel that such a nice relation was dying everyday,and one fine day this relation was not in existence at all. The worst part is she tried so hard that I should not get this contact from the main dealer at same rate and she should get the overrides of my business.
The bottom line is there is a motive in every relation. It always happens that we make new friends and forget old ones, or the contact with old friends diminishes over the time. This is due to change of motive, when the need is over, friendship is no longer required. Of course everyone is not same, but most of them are like this.
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Do you know when you laugh, everyone laugh with you, but when you cry no one cries with you. We are living in a fair-weather world. No one cares about your sorrows. Life will move on weather you are happy or sad. No one has time to share your sorrows. And think from their perspective, why some one will waste their time for you. Instead of trying to overcome the sorrow what we do, we treat ourselves with excessive indulgence, try to gain the sympathy from your close ones or loved ones. When we don’t get the expected treatment from loved ones or close peoples we keep ourselves in a same situation till we gain some sympathy or try to seek the attention by one or the other means. Most of the people have this attitude, some may go more crazy and make others too. The question is, why not to treat yourself by any mean to push you out of this difficult situation?. May be its not easy, may be it required lot of discipline, but why not do it for yourself.
what will you do to overcome any situation?, I would not like to categorize the situation, it could be anything such as broken relation, loss of wealth, or any worst situation.
5 Simple Techniques
Be Proactive, I know situation many times occurs without giving you any warning, in some cases it might be avoidable by showing little bit of pro activeness
Don’t run away from the problem, problem never gets resolved by running away from it. Face the situation, by keeping in mind that nothing is beyond the control.
Don’t drown yourself in booze, drowning yourself in a alcohol will not resolve your problem. You will loose more money and wake up with headache. And problems stays as it is.
Relax and don’t get panic, You can think ten times faster and with more accuracy when you are not panic. I don’t know what reaction occurs in human brain, when you get panic most of the time you don’t react correctly. Keep your spirit motivated.
You can take the help from your close friends, Off course yes, there is no harm in it. If you are comfortable with the person or your childhood friend with whom you can share your sorrows then do it. Sometimes keeping the problem to yourself doesn’t work. Don’t push yourself in the depression.
These are few basic start up things one should do there are many more to it. Some recommended reading, exercises you will need to perform.
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